I’m approaching the 3 month mark in my relationship and felt it was appropriate to reflect on what I feel is important for me in a relationship. With some self reflection, learning from past experiences and understanding my responsibility as a mom (teaching my son how to treat women), I have found that communication, compromise and consideration are essential to a relationship for me.
Communication: past relationships have instilled a fear upon me when it comes to opening up. I learned to bottle things in and refrained from asking questions of my partner. This is still a struggle. But, it’s a struggle that I believe I can conquer and essential to a healthy relationship.
Compromise: 🤦🏾♀️ this is still in discussion y’all. I’ll recap after I discuss this issue with my partner... leading back to communication. 😉😉 Consideration: I’m a mom. My day typically revolves around my son. It’s mandatory that my partner understand my main obligation to him. My partner has been earning some cool points lately by including my son in our activities so I don’t have to split my time (which is stressful). Those are my 3 Cs that I feel are helpful in determining the direction of a relationship in my life. Three months doesn’t sound like a lot of time but as that passion phase fades and the normalcy of a relationship settles in, I feel it’s important to think about the dynamics of your partnership and your wants/needs. Whether it’s a short lived or long term relationship, the hours, days, weeks, months and years spent is time you can’t get back. It’s time invested. It’s YOUR time.